It's not just you, because I think we have nearly identical views on what constitutes intimacy!
It's about getting lost in sensation and staying in a connected and mindful space with your partner. Dropping expectations, limitations, and nearly every thought from your mind and FEELING.
Most of the time, I end up closing my eyes in super intimate moments because it mimics meditation and allows me to focus more clearly on sensations and feelings...so I don't get the whole eye-contact = intimate connection thing.
...and just like that, I think I know what I'll be writing about today!