I don’t mean to brag or anything, but I used to be really good at ignoring red flags.
Like that time in college, when a boyfriend convinced me that my period was disgusting, he made it clear that anything sexual during that time of the month was off-limits.
Even shower sex was not up for discussion.
Naive college me took his words as fact. I internalized that little nugget of ignorant male opinion as a universal truth. I shunned any type of sexual activity while Aunt Flo was in town.
It’s no surprise that particular boyfriend ended up being more…
Imagine finding out your new spouse has been cheating on you and the child you recently had together wasn’t really yours.
Pretty devastating, right?
To make things even worse, you quickly learn nearly all of your partner’s friends knew about it and covered for her.
In this story, the pregnant spouse was my best friend, and I was the one to expose her by telling her new husband the truth.
Did I do the right thing? I’m still not sure. …
There are many misconceptions floating around about swingers and couples that choose to open up their relationship.
Swinging lifestylers are often labeled, judged, and shamed for their choice to participate in non-monogamy.
As an active member of the swinging lifestyle, I’ve learned to let the jokes and half-truths slide. I also know just how ignorant it is to judge something you know so little about — and based on the criticisms of swinging, it’s so clearly misunderstood.
I’ve experienced the positive impact swinging has had on my marriage. …
Sex can be hot, romantic, and just plain breathtaking.
It can also be awkward, weird, and downright hilarious.
It’s a little like childbirth. One moment you’re unknowingly pushing out poop in front of a horde of doctors and nurses, and seconds later, you’re birthing a miracle into the world. Most of the time, you can’t avoid pooping while pushing, so this weird and awkward moment becomes part of the birthing experience.
It’s the same with sex.
No matter how hard you try to avoid the embarrassing or awkward moments, they’re still bound to happen. You’re fighting a losing battle.
My husband is a boob guy.
He loves sucking, biting, licking, and fondling them whenever he gets a chance.
Before him, I wasn’t really into nipple play and underestimated the pleasure it could bring. Now that I’m fully aware of just how hot it can make me and I’ve learned to *mostly* enjoy it.
There’s was one big problem, though — I would always end up with sore breasts and nipples for several days afterward.
Sometimes it would just be a painful twinge I could easily ignore, but other times we would get a little carried away, and my nipples…
I’m a massive fan of oral sex, but I always used to get weird whenever a partner wanted to reciprocate.
Anytime a partner would start to move their mouth towards my lower hemisphere, every muscle in my body would tense. I would quickly find a way to alleviate the tension and avoid the awkwardness by going all-in on giving some more.
The truth was, I had convinced myself that I didn’t, and couldn’t, enjoy receiving oral.
It didn’t matter how, when, and where he offered it. I wouldn’t even allow a kiss in that direction.
But what I didn’t like…
Many moms, myself included, were forced out of the workforce when Covid hit in early 2020. We have kids that are too young to fend for themselves and jobs that were either unwilling or unable to accommodate working from home.
With the hope that most schools across the country will be back to normal with in-person instruction for fall 2021, many women are beginning to reenter the workforce.
We are collectively updating our resumes, brushing up on our interview skills, and logging onto LinkedIn to start putting our feelers out there through our existing network.
A few weeks ago, when…
I was a bit of a late bloomer and didn’t learn how to properly masturbate until I was well into adulthood.
Masturbation always seemed wrong, and I was a bit afraid of myself and my sexual desires. I fought against those genuine desires for years before realizing the beauty and release masturbation could bring me.
In my case, learning how to please myself came after learning how to please a partner. I didn’t connect to my pleasure until I started exploring my body and desires through masturbation. …
My husband and I have been swingers for nearly a decade.
When meeting new friends and describing our relationship, we typically use the words “swingers” and “lifestylers” to provide a framework for our type of open relationship.
It’s the terminology we’ve always felt most comfortable with and only recently did we even become aware of any other terms being used to label our particular sexual choices.
A few months ago, I received the first of several messages from couples (formerly known as swingers) who began urging me to use a new, and more considerate, label.
According to them, swinger was…
I’m a big fan of watching my partner pleasure himself. I’m just as into touching myself at the same time — and he doesn’t seem to mind my multi-tasking ways.
The bottom line is this — my pleasure doubles when we masturbate together. It’s also the perfect opportunity to see what and how my partner wants it and show him exactly what I’m looking for.
If I’m going slow, that’s his cue to ease into things. If I immediately reach for my vibrator or biggest toy — well, then he knows I’m more than ready and down for some exploration.
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