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Bradlee Bryant

Reflecting on what worked in the past can invite more pleasure into your future.

I rank the sexual encounters I have with my husband, but probably not in the way you would expect.

There’s nothing scientific about it.

If sex was particularly good, or at least better than other encounters in recent memory, I’ll exclaim something like “top five” or “definitely in the top 10!” It’s become my way of telling him how much I appreciate his performance. Plus, it gives him insight into just how satisfied I’m feeling.

As our kids have gotten older and life busier, our focus has shifted from quantity to the quality of our sexual connection. …


Strategies to eliminate insecurities and keep your head in the game

Swingers performance anxiety sexy couple

One of the most talked-about topics with couples new to the swinging lifestyle is performance anxiety.

At lifestyle events, the male partner almost always sheepishly asks the more experienced swingers in attendance if the rumors about performance anxiety in the lifestyle are true.

The answer is, yes.

Performance anxiety is definitely a thing in the swinging lifestyle. All of your worries and insecurities often creep in and drown out your excitement to fulfill your fantasies and threaten to disrupt your sexual focus.

It can be a total buzzkill.

The first time my husband and I had swinger sex, we both…


Don’t walk. Run.

I don’t mean to brag or anything, but I used to be really good at ignoring red flags.

Like that time in college, when a boyfriend convinced me that my period was disgusting, he made it clear that anything sexual during that time of the month was off-limits.

Even shower sex was not up for discussion.

Naive college me took his words as fact. I internalized that little nugget of ignorant male opinion as a universal truth. I shunned any type of sexual activity while Aunt Flo was in town.

It’s no surprise that particular boyfriend ended up being more…


My best friend cheated and I told her husband.

Imagine finding out your new spouse has been cheating on you and the child you recently had together wasn’t really yours.

Pretty devastating, right?

To make things even worse, you quickly learn nearly all of your partner’s friends knew about it and covered for her.

In this story, the pregnant spouse was my best friend, and I was the one to expose her by telling her new husband the truth.

Did I do the right thing? I’m still not sure. …


Swinging transformed my marriage into the kind of partnership most couples only dream about.

Swinging lifestyle benefits perks

There are many misconceptions floating around about swingers and couples that choose to open up their relationship.

Swinging lifestylers are often labeled, judged, and shamed for their choice to participate in non-monogamy.

As an active member of the swinging lifestyle, I’ve learned to let the jokes and half-truths slide. I also know just how ignorant it is to judge something you know so little about — and based on the criticisms of swinging, it’s so clearly misunderstood.

I’ve experienced the positive impact swinging has had on my marriage. …


Like my wedding night, when my husband went for the wrong hole.

Sex can be hot, romantic, and just plain breathtaking.

It can also be awkward, weird, and downright hilarious.

It’s a little like childbirth. One moment you’re unknowingly pushing out poop in front of a horde of doctors and nurses, and seconds later, you’re birthing a miracle into the world. Most of the time, you can’t avoid pooping while pushing, so this weird and awkward moment becomes part of the birthing experience.

It’s the same with sex.

No matter how hard you try to avoid the embarrassing or awkward moments, they’re still bound to happen. You’re fighting a losing battle.

When…


Tips for safe and sexy breast play, without all the pain and sensitivity.

Nipple play tips to avoid soreness and pain

My husband is a boob guy.

He loves sucking, biting, licking, and fondling them whenever he gets a chance.

Before him, I wasn’t really into nipple play and underestimated the pleasure it could bring. Now that I’m fully aware of just how hot it can make me and I’ve learned to *mostly* enjoy it.

There’s was one big problem, though — I would always end up with sore breasts and nipples for several days afterward.

Sometimes it would just be a painful twinge I could easily ignore, but other times we would get a little carried away, and my nipples…


I avoided receiving oral for a decade, please don’t make the same mistake I did.

Swingers performance anxiety sexy couple

I’m a massive fan of oral sex, but I always used to get weird whenever a partner wanted to reciprocate.

Anytime a partner would start to move their mouth towards my lower hemisphere, every muscle in my body would tense. I would quickly find a way to alleviate the tension and avoid the awkwardness by going all-in on giving some more.

The truth was, I had convinced myself that I didn’t, and couldn’t, enjoy receiving oral.

It didn’t matter how, when, and where he offered it. I wouldn’t even allow a kiss in that direction.

I wasn’t lying; I didn’t like it.

But what I didn’t like…


The corporate Rolodex recently left behind nearly 3,000,000 women and LinkedIn makes that fact painfully obvious.

Many moms, myself included, were forced out of the workforce when Covid hit in early 2020. We have kids that are too young to fend for themselves and jobs that were either unwilling or unable to accommodate working from home.

With the hope that most schools across the country will be back to normal with in-person instruction for fall 2021, many women are beginning to reenter the workforce.

We are collectively updating our resumes, brushing up on our interview skills, and logging onto LinkedIn to start putting our feelers out there through our existing network.

A few weeks ago, when…


Let’s face it, turning yourself on is sexy as hell.

I was a bit of a late bloomer and didn’t learn how to properly masturbate until I was well into adulthood.

Masturbation always seemed wrong, and I was a bit afraid of myself and my sexual desires. I fought against those genuine desires for years before realizing the beauty and release masturbation could bring me.

In my case, learning how to please myself came after learning how to please a partner. I didn’t connect to my pleasure until I started exploring my body and desires through masturbation. …

Bradlee Bryant

Mom | Wife | Sex Explorer

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